Live-In Relationships ~ New Kid on the block?

A rush of chilliness ran down my spine when he asked me if I wanted to move in with him. I stood there, dazzled and confused at the same time. Did I hear it right? Or maybe he meant something else? A sense of delight was slowly chipping in but I kept a blank face on, holding my ground, waiting for him to come again. As startled as I was, I didn’t want to give that away. I slowly moved towards him pretending as if I haven’t heard him in the first instance. “Sorry,” I said. “I guess I couldn’t hear you”, gently sliding that strand of hair that was covering my left eye while the right lay glued at him, catching every last bit of reaction I could gather. He, for once hesitated, and then mustering up his voice said again, “Do you wanna Move in with me?”. And there I could see him turning pale as if he had seen a ghost. While I, on the other hand, was trying to control my laughter on looking at his face which was showing signs of uncertainty and fear. I leaned towards him wrapping my hands around his shoulders, staring him in the eye and said, “I thought you would never ask.” and that was our moment, A moment to cherish. While the sun was setting down, giving way to the moon, the sea met the horizon, crimson redness scattering all around as if it’s giving an approval for us to be together.

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But it was a day later when reality struck. LIVE-IN was supposedly a huge deal for people around. I couldn’t understand why. I mean, It’s me who is the one who will be impacted and it’s everyone else around who are feeling the heat. Why so? Well maybe because it’s their job to judge! But then I don’t know what makes them judge it anyway. Two grown-up individuals who like each other decide to live together under one roof. Where in this world does that sound Corrupted? And yet, It’s frowned upon. It’s easy to judge others but then judging someone on the basis of a preconceived bias which is all but positive might be termed as a jerk move. (Oh Damn. Are the moral police reading this? :3)


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Let’s get into some statistics while we are talking about this to make it a solid research supported account about the new kid on the block, and most importantly, one who is here to stay, Live-in Relationship! The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reports that more than half (54 percent) of all first marriages between 1990 and 1994 began with unmarried cohabitation. This said I guess more than half of the people can’t be that wrong. Eh?

BUT BUT BUT, There always has to be a but. Isn’t it? 😂

Live-In comes with its own share of problems and downfalls. Let’s me try to lay that down too :

  • Living together is considered to be more stressful than being married.
  • Just over 50% of couples who have lived-in ever get married.
  • Couples who lived together before marriage tend to divorce early in their marriage.
  • Compared to married individuals, those cohabiting have higher levels of depression and substance abuse.

Should that stop us from getting into one? Naah. We are the Millennials. We love to live dangerously. But then again completely ignoring the fact and the noticed patterns would be a foolish move. It’s always the decision of the couple. What can be done is put in the rationality of thoughts about your motivation for living together.
Is it just out of convenience?
Is it to spend more time together?
Are you uncertain about the relationship and want to make a more informed decision?
Or, is it just a prelude to marriage?
What’s need to be Kept in mind is that couples who live together seem to have the most successful outcomes when they have already made a clear commitment to each other.
Let me try to draw a line to this now for two reasons.
One, He is getting bored and I can’t see him wait on me while I am glued to my screen.
Two, The first reason is important enough. 😉

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Last but not the least guys. Whether you choose to live under the same roof or miles apart. Distance is never a problem when you love someone. It’s always about priorities and if you could make the person of your life your priority. Then trust me, all these statistics and research would be of no use at all.
BECAUSE LOVE IS WHAT LOVE WANTS!  😋

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5 signs a girl like you

It is often said that women are a mystery and that it is difficult to understand them. Maybe, maybe not. Women are subtle in a lot of ways, especially when they are interested in someone; a slight brush of the hand, a certain way that they look at you and more. So, if you’re wondering if a certain someone might be interested in you, watch out for these five signs.  

 

 

  • She cannot maintain eye contact with you for long

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    It difficult to look into the eyes of the one you like without becoming completely flustered. Girls tend to not meet the gaze of the one they’re into lest they give away more than they want to.

     

  • Her friends know about you
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    If a girl is into you she will definitely tell her friends about you. They know what you look like and if you’ve had conversations, her friends have the screenshots. So if her friends are giving her a hard time when you’re around, know that you’ve been a topic of some very interesting and positive conversations.

  • She compliments you

 

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Depending on what kind of a person she is, her compliments can be either subtle or straight forward. She’ll laugh even at your really bad and cheesy jokes, tell you that she likes your eyes or that she
thinks that you’re great.

  • She uses your name when talking/texting to you
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    When texting she’ll try to make use of your name as much as she can without it sounding weird. It is said that the usage of someone’s name tends to turn the attention of the person whose name is being use towards the speaker.

 

  • She subtly asks about your dating life
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This will never, ever be a direct question. She’ll subtly bring up your girlfriend in a conversation saying things like, “Your girlfriend is a lucky person”, hoping that you’ll laugh and say that you don’t have a girlfriend thus giving her the information she needs without her having asked for it directly. Sneaky, sneaky.

 


So, now that the secrets have been revealed look out for these five signs to find your special someone. Thank us later!

Sherlock: Real vs Reel!

Imagination is the real thing they say, makes you who you always wanted to be, and that brought me to the question, how about becoming the most intelligent detective the world has ever seen! Sherlock Holmes. Sherlock’s world is where everything happens following an order! Every situation has a set of definite outcomes. It assumes that the people’s habits or activities are absolutely perfect and Sherlock is the unsolicited King. In reality, we have problems in choosing Pizza over Burger.

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Let’s take an example, Shall we? (That’s how he speaks, I suppose! 😛 ) in ‘The Blind Banker’, Sherlock identifies that the person is left-handed saying “The butter knife on the kitchen surface has butter on the right side of the blade because he used it with his left.”
In the real world, almost nothing is perfect! Even a left-handed person’s butter knife would have butter on both the sides, maybe some jam too, considering his delight for jam !! 😛

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In Sherlock’s world, we are constantly reminded of the fact that he is a high functioning Sociopath who doesn’t really care about human emotion,  is far away from its clutches and likes to live life dangerously duping himself in drugs as if they were candies. Trust me when I say this, we would die, yes die even if we consider taking in that much drugs out of shock, leave alone doing it.

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Sherlock Holmes in Steven Moffat and Mark Gatiss’ Sherlock at times seems to be a genuinely nasty bloke going head over heels going to a point where he is seen telling children that their grandfather is rotting in the ground, and even being dismissively rude towards Russell Tovey’s potential client, for instance. Him telling Kitty Reilly, the journalist in The Reichenbach Fall, that “you repel me” was more than a little over the top. (Well, She was selfish, ambitious and a little manipulative, but she repels him? A man who deals with criminals more or less every day?) . Just consider telling that to a person on his/her face and see the world burn.

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 Then again, comes the point where Sherlock is seen to be almost perfect at whatever he does and so does Moriarty, his nemesis, but really? In his infamous “Reichenbach fall” you want me to believe that you can fall off a building and then fly like a bird off to glory, that’s some fantasy ‘shizz’ going on there.

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Oh Oh Oh!! how can I not talk about The Mind Palace when I talk about Sherlock, that’s one thing which has perplexed everyone with it aura on how clear can one’s vision and thoughts be, let me break it to you,  no matter how cool it may sound, it’s next to impossible to get such a high dedicated  sense of mind mapping.

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Well, that is unless you are Chacha Chowdhary and your mind works faster than a computer. 😛

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I know this article is going to bring me in the bad books of all Sherlock fans and they might have even listed down various ways where I would end not in a condition I would like to be in, but then again, Anonymity is Bae and I am loving it. So I would want to end this saying Boo Yeah !!

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PS: I love him, just like anyone of you do and it would be a shame if we don’t get to see more of him. *Drools*

*Awaits for the next season with the Bunny Cap on*

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FROM THE EYES OF A FUR SLIPPER

FUR SLIPPERS AND INTROVERTS
Have you seen those fur slippers people wear at home? They are not supposed to be worn outside, they are too fluffy for that. You feel at home as soon as you put your feet in them. Introverts are like those fur slippers. They become your comfort zones once you get to know them. They don’t talk much, don’t prefer going out unless it’s necessary. But these are the things they are judged for.

BUT WAIT…
There is always more to every person than they let on. Every person is a story and world altogether. And not everyone is an open book. Few prefer to be like those private lock-able diaries only a selected and special few can read. Otherwise what would have been the difference between Sheldon and Penny?!

SALVATORES WITHOUT THEIR RINGS? NO WAY!
It’s true that they would prefer chatting over a conversation on call because they would not want to put themselves too much in the open (you cannot expect Damon Salvatore to go out in the sun without his ring, can you?). But in that chat, they will give you all of themselves. You can trust them with your deepest secrets and fears. They will listen to you and observe keenly. And isn’t listening to the key to good communication (unless you are Arnab who gets paid for not listening most of the time). They are the perfect human-diary-material.

BLACK WIDOW TO HULK
But have you ever tried to look from the perspective of an introvert? They might enjoy their own company but they need a good friend as much as any other human. They might be strong and comfortable in their own skin but once in a while they also need a tight hug, an ear which listens patiently and a heart which understands. Even the Hulk needs a Black Widow.

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If you have an introvert friend/person in your life then cherish them because they are the truest and the realest people you will ever meet.

PS: Date them! You will never regret it. Trust me 😉 😉

The following Dos and Don’ts might help:

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DEEP STUFF

According to Judith Butler, using language itself is a form of censorship. The blue sky I see might be a lot different to the blue sky you perceive. Language makes us sort everything as binaries, every good has a bad, white has black, happy has sad, love has hate, weird has normal and introvert has extrovert. And everything is defined in such a way that one cannot exist without the other. It is only when we move beyond the binaries and see through multiple perspectives that we actually start to see things as they are instead of as we are.

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We think as we think because we are a sack full of memories and experiences. It is only when we are oblivious as kids or old people that we question everything around us.

“Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion,
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.”
                                                     – Shakespeare

And before we enter the last stage of life, let’s be more. More than the binaries that make us who we are, what we see, how we see and who we see.

 

Let’s see people as people and not by the tags which the world gives them because all of us have a little bit of every one woven in our soul

~ Can someone fall in love with two people at the same time? ~

Falling in love is an all-consuming process.
You can’t stop thinking about the person;
you can’t sleep;
you loose appetite;
And life without his/her presence becomes next to impossible ;
unimaginable and you would sacrifice everything,
literally, everything to be with them, Forever.

But the question that crosses my mind is that, if true love completely takes us over, is it even possible to have those feelings for two people at the same time?

Is it even possible to divide your life between them?
Is it possible to be theirs at the same time without having to question yourself?

.Some people do claim that it’s not only possible but somewhat a necessity, because one person cannot possibly provide them everything they need or long for. Loving two people at a time may not be entirely infeasible, taking into consideration that the extra additional love would be based upon a totally different set of characteristics, thus making both the loves, complementary rather than contradictory.

Well, falling for two people at the same time seems possible on a rational level, but then the question that really needs to be answered is that, can love ever be considered rational?

Cuz, after all, almost all the people we see around are blindsided by love, which results in a kind of temporary insanity that not only defies attempts to assess it objectively but in some ways makes people emotionally unstable. A person caught in the throes of love can even go to an extent where he/she behaves like someone who is mentally ill or maybe under the influence of drugs.

But if you were to ask me if loving two people at the same time is possible?

I would say, “Yes, I think it is.” I said so because I have a friend who has experienced falling in love with two people at the same time. And that person was so stuck in the dilemma that it wasn’t really possible to decide as to whose side to choose and whom to hold on to? Result? The said person ended up losing both of them.

Talking about my perception, I am against it though. Why? Because somehow I think it is more of a selfish act. According to my belief, when you really fall for someone, with all of your heart, devoting literally all you have to offer and then some more, then you obviously cannot do it for two people at the same time.

Why? Because that one person is your MOON.

That one person is who gives you a reason to live,
a reason to believe,
a reason to smile,
a reason to celebrate,
a reason to get back to your feet after that fall,
a reason to be yourself, to love yourself.
And that person is not someone you can afford to share.
That person is yours.
All yours.
#WhimsicallYours! 💜

10 Reasons Why Some People Never Fail to Nail their Interview

Don’t we all have that one person in our life who always ace’s his or her interviews and successfully charm the pants off their interviewers. At times, you are secretly guessing about their secret to success and thinking of how can you make sure that you get chosen or every interview is incredible? Well, below are the ten reasons why such people always rock their job interviews.

1. They do their Homework!

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These people bring their A game to the table and do a religious background check about the organisation. They get themselves acquainted with the potential employer’s mission, achievements, milestones, website, blog, social media, press, quarterly reports and anything else they can find. They bring concrete numbers to the table and knowing every part of an organisation proves that the candidate is interested. So, the more you know, the more empowered you will feel and this is what makes them star interviewees.

2. Are Intelligently Inquisitive

Most of us take interviews as a single-inning match, where just the candidates have to bat the questions. But, most of the candidates impress their potential employers once they are on the other side of the pitch too. They clarify their doubts regarding the job role by posing questions with some personal tidbits and happily kill two birds with a single stone, like, ‘I teach kids at an NGO, will the job responsibilities allow me to be involved in projects?’

3. Great Story-tellers

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The art of storytelling is one of the main reasons why these successful people nail every interview. For instance, “So, tell me a little about yourself” almost all job interview starts with this question and, this is the perfect opportunity where these people outdo others by telling a brief but memorable story about themselves, a story which explains, heart to heart, why they’re perfect for the job.

4.Dress to Impress

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In order to be taken seriously, mannerisms, as well as appearance need to be appropriate. These people are the ones who wear well-ironed clothes and are comfortable with what they are wearing.

Quick Tip: Find out what the company culture is like and how people dress before deciding on what you’ll wear (think suits for banks, something business casual for ad agencies etc.).  

5. Confidence is their MVP

You won’t find them stammering or fiddling with their hands while answering questions. They come across as nice, sociable but, their real MVP is confidence which comes from the fact that knowledge = confidence. The more they know, the more empowered and confident they will feel.

6. Honesty is their policy

They are honest and don’t depend on lies about gaps or detours in the resume. They explain what they learned during the time off and how it will benefit them in the job they are applying for. They turn this into an advantage and they share how they used the off time for personal growth.

7. Follow  “Iceberg Strategy”

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Their secret magic sauce to success is the “iceberg strategy”. How do they use it? They expose enough about themselves that they are interesting and the employer wants to hire them, but not so much that they only talk about themselves and bore the interviewer.

8. They Show What They Got

By combining their past experiences with research about the organisation and where it’s going, they show the potential employer hiring person what kind of impact they can make for his or her team in the future.

For instance, they could say something like, “During my leadership as President of the Sanitation and Hygiene Society in college, we successfully raised over one lac and built around 50 washrooms under my leadership, and through this experience, I think I can add a lot to the fundraising team in the organisation.

9. Clean Social Presence

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These people make sure that their public profiles are employee friendly and up to date. They establish themselves as an authority online by either starting a blog, moderating a forum or just being active in a Linkedin group. They have recommendations on their profiles and these work as the old school resume references.

Do you Know? 92% of companies use social media for their recruitment, with one in three employers rejecting candidates based on something they found in their social profiles.

10. Only Positive Vibes

With a bright smile on their face, they are able to lift the moods of the interviewers. Positive attitude, humour combined with charisma, attracts everyone and even if they lack experience or a skill set, this is their trump card.

So, now that you know what goes into nailing an interview, make sure that you have ticked all the above boxes. Prepare well with the data and be aware of your strengths and know how you can use your imperfections to grow.

Now, go ace that interview!

 

7 Daily Habits Of Ultra Successful People

     ” It’s easy to  be envious of someone’s success,

        But difficult to assess the magnitude of tears & sweat they put in.”

We constantly pressurize our puny brains as to why are we not there, where success is? We feel success is for the successful, whom we imagine having been born with a silver spoon. The world seems to have one more discrimination. The successful who live on the other side and us, who are busy harassing ourselves with whys and hows.

Are they born successful? Are they born with the glitz and glam or maybe a crown?

Well, success isn’t limited to one’s IQ, bank balance or looks. There is no formula or recipe that will give you a taste of success.

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But, certain ultra successful people advocate similar traits which you and I, can imbibe in our own lives.

7. Early to bed, Early to Rise!

You cannot expect your brain to work properly with a hangover or in a  drowsy state. Albert Einstein used to sleep for 10 hours a day. The body works at its best when we follow the nature’s clock- Sleep after sunset and wake up with the rising sun. Notable early risers include Sir Richard Branson of Virgin Group, Disney CEO Robert Iger and Yahoo’s Marissa Mayer. Tom Corley in his best-selling venture ‘ Change Your Habits, Change Your Life‘, says that an overwhelming 89 percent of self-made millionaire sleep seven or eight hours each night, or more.  If this is the way to success, I am on it!

6. Don’t Break the Chain!

Want to be acclaimed and acknowledged?? You gotta Work! Practice! Work! You can’t expect success to come to you. You have to make your way to it. People who are successful are disciplined and exhibit a high level of perseverance. They have tasted failure more than we have ever tried. Serena Williams, since her childhood, has been practicing tennis every morning from sharp 6:00 a.m. Dallas Mavericks owner and famous Shark investor didn’t take a vacation for seven years when his company was just starting up. That’s dedication! You will lose the grip of everything you have acquired if you break the chain.

5. Hush the Gratification Monkey

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The monkey in your brain hops and jumps around causing confusion, procrastination anxiety and guilt.  It’s very essential to feed the monkey with some sanity and peace. Unless your minds are focussed enough, you cannot materialize your ideas into concrete plans leading to success. Hugh Jackman discussed the benefits of meditation with Oprah Winfrey saying,

“In meditation, I can let go of everything. I’m not Hugh Jackman. I’m not a dad. I’m not a husband. I’m just dipping into that powerful source that creates everything. I take a little bath in it.”

Meditation improves your ability to focus instead on getting overwhelmed with everything that’s happening around you.

4. Exercise!

A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. In fact, using ‘too much work’ as an excuse not to exercise is counterproductive. Studies show that exercise can boost creativity and productivity by as much as two hours!  It makes you smarter, too. According to Corley, 76 percent of the rich carve out 30 minutes or more for aerobic exercise like jogging, biking, or walking each day. Barack Obama, 44th president of the United States exercises for 45 minutes a day, six days per week. He exercises first thing in the morning, alternating between lifting weights one day and doing cardio the next. Mark Zuckerberg works out at least 3 days a week. Wanna win big,  get your butt off that couch!

3. Read, A LOT!!

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Reading is the best habit one can imbibe. It acquaints you with the knowledge and the mysteries and the mantras of this world. Reading provides you with a mental map, which you can use to surpass the undulating phases of your life and avoid the rookie mistakes people make in their lives. Mark Cuban insists on reading 3 hours a day, while Bill Gates reads for 1 hour as part of his bedtime routine. J.K Rowling, the first ever billionaire author, read ‘absolutely anything’ as a child. So find the coziest corner of your house, brew some instant coffee and delve into the virtual reality of the books!

2. Build & Nurture Positive Relations

Your network is your net worth! You need to be around equally motivated people and devoid yourself of all toxicity and negativity. A circle from where you can draw inspiration, helps you develop and grow as a person. If you share a healthy relationship with your family and friends, you can focus better on work. Being entwined in the maze of uncertainties and negativity will hinder your growth. Successful people aim at building healthy relationships with similar motive-driven people. Tom Corley says- “You are only as successful as those you frequently associate with.”

1. Train the Muse

What separates people winning laurels and etching their name in history from us? Pros work even if they don’t feel like. When you feel this isn’t the right time to paint your muse or devise some nuclear formula; that’s the time when you act upon it. The 15 minutes of derailed faith, if fought with, can help you shun all your inhibitions. There is no ideal time for anything. You just have to guide your forces NOW!

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You all must be feeling charged up and must have planned to include these habits in your daily life. Well, stop and reflect upon it. Pick up one habit and work upon it for 3 – 6 months till it has blended with your routine before moving on to another. Remember that success is hard-earned and it comes to those who have faith in themselves and do not worry about the fruit!

Tag your friends whom you see as millionaires and successful people and let them know you believe in them!!