Dark side of online dating apps

Swipe right, left, up and down. Swipe till you find the right. The buzz around online dating has surely made us download dating apps at one point or another. The excitement of dating online just by chats is quite thrilling. Of course there are people who have met online and have decided to spend their lives together, but have you considered the percentage? Their percentage is nothing as compared to the fall outs that happen due to online dating apps.

While online dating apps can be as exciting as it gets, it does come with a few skeletons in the cupboard. While it offers you the romance with no strings attached, but let’s face it we are humans and are bound to get attached especially with the wrong one at the wrong time. Here are some dark sides of online dating apps that you should be aware of:

1. Reel or real

Let’s just say the profile picture you are seeing on the app can be fake. There is a full possibility that the person you are talking to is not the same one you are seeing online. Unless you have seen the person face to face, don’t believe what you see online.

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 2. Gone with the wind

You cannot trace the person you were talking to on online app unless you have exchanged phone numbers. If you are talking just through the online app, then the one you think is your dream man/woman can disappear and never come back. You might get attached and your date can easily break all ties with you just by finishing his/her existence from the app.

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3. You are not YOU!

Well, let’s just not pretend, if the person you are talking to can be fake, so can you. You are in constant urge to impress your online date and can lie about yourself with ease. There is not even a possibility for the person to read your body language and judge you. You become a different person that sometimes even you fail to recognize.

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4. Polygamy

Okay okay, let’s admit this. You are not the only one your online date is talking to. They might be double dating or even multi dating, because there is literally no way to find out about your online dating partner’s cheating habits. You might not be someone special to them but just another one of their fling.

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5. From dating to stalking

A lot of apps offer you of finding your online date nearby, in a distance as close as 100 m. What if the person turns out to be a psycho or a stalker? You do realize they can follow you around everywhere and stalk you to the level of being crazy, right? You cannot even avoid them on online app because they might come in person and ask you why aren’t you replying. So basically online dating can give you a stalker for life.

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This dark side of online dating apps is something everyone should keep in mind when they land up on an app to find either the right one or just a casual fling. We aren’t suggesting that dating apps are a bane, but they aren’t a boon either. Just be careful is all we are asking you to do. Till then relax and we hope you can find someone in real. 

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Friends with benefits: An unbiased opinion

Two friends who agree on having sexual relationship with no emotional attachments, is what urban dictionary calls as “Friends with Benefits”. While some might find this idea astounding and totally feasible, there are some who vehemently oppose it by saying, “There is always an STD-free way and free pornography available on internet, so the entire idea of having FWB and ruining the beautiful relationship called friendship is a moot point”.

Well, what-so-ever both the parties argue but we are here today declaring our stand as unbiased and largely fair on FWB.

People might feel that kicking off an FWB relationship is a lot of fun as you get to hook up with the person who understands you the most plus you are not at all answerable. That’s great!! But have you ever thought that IT is a hook up at the end of the day. And it is not important that the other person will be as detached as you are in that relationship. So to not end up with excessive emotional trauma at the end of the day, make sure that you follow these simple rules religiously.

  1. Know yourself inside-out

Before you get into anything, be clear about your intentions, make sure that you are not looking for any long-term arrangement and are rather happy with keeping the strings unattached.

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  1. Honesty will take you a long way

I understand that you guys are not looking for any emotional connect or commitment with each other. But come on, Transparency is the key to every relationship. Having a total cool girl/ cool boy attitude might not get you what you were looking for. Basically, talk in a neutral environment and voice out your demands and expectations too.

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3. Intermittent check of feelings

Now, one has to understand that feelings, emotions and human intentions are subject to change. One might think confident about having FWB in beginning but have qualms about the same later. So make sure that you keep a tight check on your feelings and don’t end up bartering emotional breakdown for sexual adventure.

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  1. AND read on their feelings too

Apply the same rule; FEELINGS CHANGE. I know its all fun having sex with your buddy where all the inhibitions have taken a backseat but don’t forget to be human. Try and get an idea about your partner’s feelings too, talk about it if required. Make yourself available, and then only can you strengthen your trust, friendship, and vulnerability with each other.

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  1. Don’t you forget to use the protection

It’s obvious in FWB arrangements that either of you will be hooking up with multiple people. So just play safe, you don’t want to pull yourself into complicated situations. Let each of your partners know about your preferred birth control technique before starting off the ride.

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And lastly, some words of wisdom; don’t get swayed emotionally even if they are your best orgasms ever. Remember; don’t try to build an intimate relationship rather just concentrate on enjoying each other physically.

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Live-In Relationships ~ New Kid on the block?

A rush of chilliness ran down my spine when he asked me if I wanted to move in with him. I stood there, dazzled and confused at the same time. Did I hear it right? Or maybe he meant something else? A sense of delight was slowly chipping in but I kept a blank face on, holding my ground, waiting for him to come again. As startled as I was, I didn’t want to give that away. I slowly moved towards him pretending as if I haven’t heard him in the first instance. “Sorry,” I said. “I guess I couldn’t hear you”, gently sliding that strand of hair that was covering my left eye while the right lay glued at him, catching every last bit of reaction I could gather. He, for once hesitated, and then mustering up his voice said again, “Do you wanna Move in with me?”. And there I could see him turning pale as if he had seen a ghost. While I, on the other hand, was trying to control my laughter on looking at his face which was showing signs of uncertainty and fear. I leaned towards him wrapping my hands around his shoulders, staring him in the eye and said, “I thought you would never ask.” and that was our moment, A moment to cherish. While the sun was setting down, giving way to the moon, the sea met the horizon, crimson redness scattering all around as if it’s giving an approval for us to be together.

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But it was a day later when reality struck. LIVE-IN was supposedly a huge deal for people around. I couldn’t understand why. I mean, It’s me who is the one who will be impacted and it’s everyone else around who are feeling the heat. Why so? Well maybe because it’s their job to judge! But then I don’t know what makes them judge it anyway. Two grown-up individuals who like each other decide to live together under one roof. Where in this world does that sound Corrupted? And yet, It’s frowned upon. It’s easy to judge others but then judging someone on the basis of a preconceived bias which is all but positive might be termed as a jerk move. (Oh Damn. Are the moral police reading this? :3)


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Let’s get into some statistics while we are talking about this to make it a solid research supported account about the new kid on the block, and most importantly, one who is here to stay, Live-in Relationship! The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reports that more than half (54 percent) of all first marriages between 1990 and 1994 began with unmarried cohabitation. This said I guess more than half of the people can’t be that wrong. Eh?

BUT BUT BUT, There always has to be a but. Isn’t it? 😂

Live-In comes with its own share of problems and downfalls. Let’s me try to lay that down too :

  • Living together is considered to be more stressful than being married.
  • Just over 50% of couples who have lived-in ever get married.
  • Couples who lived together before marriage tend to divorce early in their marriage.
  • Compared to married individuals, those cohabiting have higher levels of depression and substance abuse.

Should that stop us from getting into one? Naah. We are the Millennials. We love to live dangerously. But then again completely ignoring the fact and the noticed patterns would be a foolish move. It’s always the decision of the couple. What can be done is put in the rationality of thoughts about your motivation for living together.
Is it just out of convenience?
Is it to spend more time together?
Are you uncertain about the relationship and want to make a more informed decision?
Or, is it just a prelude to marriage?
What’s need to be Kept in mind is that couples who live together seem to have the most successful outcomes when they have already made a clear commitment to each other.
Let me try to draw a line to this now for two reasons.
One, He is getting bored and I can’t see him wait on me while I am glued to my screen.
Two, The first reason is important enough. 😉

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Last but not the least guys. Whether you choose to live under the same roof or miles apart. Distance is never a problem when you love someone. It’s always about priorities and if you could make the person of your life your priority. Then trust me, all these statistics and research would be of no use at all.
BECAUSE LOVE IS WHAT LOVE WANTS!  😋

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Ten “love” posts that rule them all

Instagram is a great place! You can post your pictures, look at the aesthetics of other people’s profile, try to make your profile look the same and fail miserably. But all in all, Instagram is fun! But sometimes you come across posts and profiles and you think “this is the kind of stuff that can be used as an argument against net neutrality.” The cringe is so real and so hard that you wish for your eyes to un-see it but you can’t for that post and those words are now etched into your minds. Here are ten posts that you can send people if you wish to creep them out to the extremes.

  • When the possessiveness is very real:

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I mean isn’t this what love is all about? Finding a special someone and never letting them go. Never. Ever. So if you’ve got a special someone in your life let them know about this. Think Shah Rukh Khan from the movie Darr. That’s right kids, THAT’S what true love is all about.

  • It’s called emotional blackmail just FYI:
source: http://www.pictame.com/media/1452985941948940281_1805238875

Even though this is a manipulative behavior and borderline psychopathic but hey, all is fair in love and war right? Even if it is threatening someone to stay with you. Totally normal behavior. So, go ahead grab your significant other, look them into their eyes and tell them how you’ll kill yourself if they ever left you. Nothing strengthens a relationship like emotional blackmail after all.

  • This one might have hit home:
source: http://bewafalarka.blogspot.in/2016/04/mohabbat-kitni-bhi-sachi-karlo.html

Too poor for plastic surgery and makeup? Even your genetics totally ditched you? Yep, you’re gonna die alone. Love is only for pretty people guys. Rest of us don’t get to procreate.

  • Umm have you ever tried cheese burst pizza?
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And you thought passing an exam you thought you were surely failing was the best feeling in the world. Pfft! So go ahead, grab hold of your significant other and get married at your nearest mandir/mazjid/church/gurudwara/ courthouse/bouncy house today!

  • Visit your nearest Optician today!
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And you thought glasses were to just help you see. You are wrong. Glasses make you cute, like puppies. You’re irresistible now. All you glassless people are never going to find love whether you’re simple or have a dimple and no pimple.

  • And I thought this was known as an unstable relationship:
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Who even comes up with these? Honestly, such profound wisdom! Why not compile all these and make it into a book called “Jaanu why you no maanu”

  • ………..wow, okay:
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You stayed with one woman all your life? Someone call Guinness Book of World Records we have someone who did the impossible. Here’s your Nobel prize, Oscar, Filmfare, Pulitzer, my first born child, a soul of a virgin. Take it, it’s all yours!

  • I have the purest of hearts then : )
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Actually, they might just need anger management classes but what does a loveless person like me know? Maybe this is love. People losing their temper at you and you forgive them thinking how their heart is so “SAAF” just like a floor cleaned with disinfectant.  

  • Is jaanu, shona, babu, laalu all done with?

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All you guys out there, take notes. Call your girlfriends your wife and ask your mom to refer to her as bahu and your siblings to call her bhabhi. Next, watch as she leaves you and runs away at the speed of life.

  • Where’s my Nobel Prize in bravery?
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All you girls who manage their daily moods AAALLL BY THEMSELVES, this one for you. Rest of us women can hardly function without our personal mood trainers you know? Yeah, we’re not brave at all. This post just upset me, brb calling my mood trainer now.