Live-In Relationships ~ New Kid on the block?

A rush of chilliness ran down my spine when he asked me if I wanted to move in with him. I stood there, dazzled and confused at the same time. Did I hear it right? Or maybe he meant something else? A sense of delight was slowly chipping in but I kept a blank face on, holding my ground, waiting for him to come again. As startled as I was, I didn’t want to give that away. I slowly moved towards him pretending as if I haven’t heard him in the first instance. “Sorry,” I said. “I guess I couldn’t hear you”, gently sliding that strand of hair that was covering my left eye while the right lay glued at him, catching every last bit of reaction I could gather. He, for once hesitated, and then mustering up his voice said again, “Do you wanna Move in with me?”. And there I could see him turning pale as if he had seen a ghost. While I, on the other hand, was trying to control my laughter on looking at his face which was showing signs of uncertainty and fear. I leaned towards him wrapping my hands around his shoulders, staring him in the eye and said, “I thought you would never ask.” and that was our moment, A moment to cherish. While the sun was setting down, giving way to the moon, the sea met the horizon, crimson redness scattering all around as if it’s giving an approval for us to be together.

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But it was a day later when reality struck. LIVE-IN was supposedly a huge deal for people around. I couldn’t understand why. I mean, It’s me who is the one who will be impacted and it’s everyone else around who are feeling the heat. Why so? Well maybe because it’s their job to judge! But then I don’t know what makes them judge it anyway. Two grown-up individuals who like each other decide to live together under one roof. Where in this world does that sound Corrupted? And yet, It’s frowned upon. It’s easy to judge others but then judging someone on the basis of a preconceived bias which is all but positive might be termed as a jerk move. (Oh Damn. Are the moral police reading this? :3)


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Let’s get into some statistics while we are talking about this to make it a solid research supported account about the new kid on the block, and most importantly, one who is here to stay, Live-in Relationship! The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reports that more than half (54 percent) of all first marriages between 1990 and 1994 began with unmarried cohabitation. This said I guess more than half of the people can’t be that wrong. Eh?

BUT BUT BUT, There always has to be a but. Isn’t it? 😂

Live-In comes with its own share of problems and downfalls. Let’s me try to lay that down too :

  • Living together is considered to be more stressful than being married.
  • Just over 50% of couples who have lived-in ever get married.
  • Couples who lived together before marriage tend to divorce early in their marriage.
  • Compared to married individuals, those cohabiting have higher levels of depression and substance abuse.

Should that stop us from getting into one? Naah. We are the Millennials. We love to live dangerously. But then again completely ignoring the fact and the noticed patterns would be a foolish move. It’s always the decision of the couple. What can be done is put in the rationality of thoughts about your motivation for living together.
Is it just out of convenience?
Is it to spend more time together?
Are you uncertain about the relationship and want to make a more informed decision?
Or, is it just a prelude to marriage?
What’s need to be Kept in mind is that couples who live together seem to have the most successful outcomes when they have already made a clear commitment to each other.
Let me try to draw a line to this now for two reasons.
One, He is getting bored and I can’t see him wait on me while I am glued to my screen.
Two, The first reason is important enough. 😉

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Last but not the least guys. Whether you choose to live under the same roof or miles apart. Distance is never a problem when you love someone. It’s always about priorities and if you could make the person of your life your priority. Then trust me, all these statistics and research would be of no use at all.
BECAUSE LOVE IS WHAT LOVE WANTS!  😋

Featured Image: http://www.youthincmag.com/live-relationship-pros-cons
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Ten “love” posts that rule them all

Instagram is a great place! You can post your pictures, look at the aesthetics of other people’s profile, try to make your profile look the same and fail miserably. But all in all, Instagram is fun! But sometimes you come across posts and profiles and you think “this is the kind of stuff that can be used as an argument against net neutrality.” The cringe is so real and so hard that you wish for your eyes to un-see it but you can’t for that post and those words are now etched into your minds. Here are ten posts that you can send people if you wish to creep them out to the extremes.

  • When the possessiveness is very real:

source: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/680888037384927464/

I mean isn’t this what love is all about? Finding a special someone and never letting them go. Never. Ever. So if you’ve got a special someone in your life let them know about this. Think Shah Rukh Khan from the movie Darr. That’s right kids, THAT’S what true love is all about.

  • It’s called emotional blackmail just FYI:
source: http://www.pictame.com/media/1452985941948940281_1805238875

Even though this is a manipulative behavior and borderline psychopathic but hey, all is fair in love and war right? Even if it is threatening someone to stay with you. Totally normal behavior. So, go ahead grab your significant other, look them into their eyes and tell them how you’ll kill yourself if they ever left you. Nothing strengthens a relationship like emotional blackmail after all.

  • This one might have hit home:
source: http://bewafalarka.blogspot.in/2016/04/mohabbat-kitni-bhi-sachi-karlo.html

Too poor for plastic surgery and makeup? Even your genetics totally ditched you? Yep, you’re gonna die alone. Love is only for pretty people guys. Rest of us don’t get to procreate.

  • Umm have you ever tried cheese burst pizza?
source: http://www.pictame.com/media/1445039372260648063_1805238875

And you thought passing an exam you thought you were surely failing was the best feeling in the world. Pfft! So go ahead, grab hold of your significant other and get married at your nearest mandir/mazjid/church/gurudwara/ courthouse/bouncy house today!

  • Visit your nearest Optician today!
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And you thought glasses were to just help you see. You are wrong. Glasses make you cute, like puppies. You’re irresistible now. All you glassless people are never going to find love whether you’re simple or have a dimple and no pimple.

  • And I thought this was known as an unstable relationship:
source: https://www.picbon.com/user/truelove.ia/1805238875/1456377192769620330_1805238875

Who even comes up with these? Honestly, such profound wisdom! Why not compile all these and make it into a book called “Jaanu why you no maanu”

  • ………..wow, okay:
source: https://plus.google.com/communities/111893915790279515081/stream/84f9b388-1575-4fd1-9f50-a063ae8e3eaf

You stayed with one woman all your life? Someone call Guinness Book of World Records we have someone who did the impossible. Here’s your Nobel prize, Oscar, Filmfare, Pulitzer, my first born child, a soul of a virgin. Take it, it’s all yours!

  • I have the purest of hearts then : )
source: https://twitter.com/amansinghahuja1

Actually, they might just need anger management classes but what does a loveless person like me know? Maybe this is love. People losing their temper at you and you forgive them thinking how their heart is so “SAAF” just like a floor cleaned with disinfectant.  

  • Is jaanu, shona, babu, laalu all done with?

source: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/angelkhanfa0634/l%C3%A2r%C4%91ki%C3%BFo%C5%84-k%C3%A9-b%C3%A2%C3%A1ta%C3%ACn/?lp=true

All you guys out there, take notes. Call your girlfriends your wife and ask your mom to refer to her as bahu and your siblings to call her bhabhi. Next, watch as she leaves you and runs away at the speed of life.

  • Where’s my Nobel Prize in bravery?
source: https://me.me/t/poorie?since=1492903676%2C13090329?since=1492903676%2C13090329

All you girls who manage their daily moods AAALLL BY THEMSELVES, this one for you. Rest of us women can hardly function without our personal mood trainers you know? Yeah, we’re not brave at all. This post just upset me, brb calling my mood trainer now.

5 signs a girl like you

It is often said that women are a mystery and that it is difficult to understand them. Maybe, maybe not. Women are subtle in a lot of ways, especially when they are interested in someone; a slight brush of the hand, a certain way that they look at you and more. So, if you’re wondering if a certain someone might be interested in you, watch out for these five signs.  

 

 

  • She cannot maintain eye contact with you for long

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    It difficult to look into the eyes of the one you like without becoming completely flustered. Girls tend to not meet the gaze of the one they’re into lest they give away more than they want to.

     

  • Her friends know about you
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    If a girl is into you she will definitely tell her friends about you. They know what you look like and if you’ve had conversations, her friends have the screenshots. So if her friends are giving her a hard time when you’re around, know that you’ve been a topic of some very interesting and positive conversations.

  • She compliments you

 

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Depending on what kind of a person she is, her compliments can be either subtle or straight forward. She’ll laugh even at your really bad and cheesy jokes, tell you that she likes your eyes or that she
thinks that you’re great.

  • She uses your name when talking/texting to you
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    When texting she’ll try to make use of your name as much as she can without it sounding weird. It is said that the usage of someone’s name tends to turn the attention of the person whose name is being use towards the speaker.

 

  • She subtly asks about your dating life
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This will never, ever be a direct question. She’ll subtly bring up your girlfriend in a conversation saying things like, “Your girlfriend is a lucky person”, hoping that you’ll laugh and say that you don’t have a girlfriend thus giving her the information she needs without her having asked for it directly. Sneaky, sneaky.

 


So, now that the secrets have been revealed look out for these five signs to find your special someone. Thank us later!

~ Can someone fall in love with two people at the same time? ~

Falling in love is an all-consuming process.
You can’t stop thinking about the person;
you can’t sleep;
you loose appetite;
And life without his/her presence becomes next to impossible ;
unimaginable and you would sacrifice everything,
literally, everything to be with them, Forever.

But the question that crosses my mind is that, if true love completely takes us over, is it even possible to have those feelings for two people at the same time?

Is it even possible to divide your life between them?
Is it possible to be theirs at the same time without having to question yourself?

.Some people do claim that it’s not only possible but somewhat a necessity, because one person cannot possibly provide them everything they need or long for. Loving two people at a time may not be entirely infeasible, taking into consideration that the extra additional love would be based upon a totally different set of characteristics, thus making both the loves, complementary rather than contradictory.

Well, falling for two people at the same time seems possible on a rational level, but then the question that really needs to be answered is that, can love ever be considered rational?

Cuz, after all, almost all the people we see around are blindsided by love, which results in a kind of temporary insanity that not only defies attempts to assess it objectively but in some ways makes people emotionally unstable. A person caught in the throes of love can even go to an extent where he/she behaves like someone who is mentally ill or maybe under the influence of drugs.

But if you were to ask me if loving two people at the same time is possible?

I would say, “Yes, I think it is.” I said so because I have a friend who has experienced falling in love with two people at the same time. And that person was so stuck in the dilemma that it wasn’t really possible to decide as to whose side to choose and whom to hold on to? Result? The said person ended up losing both of them.

Talking about my perception, I am against it though. Why? Because somehow I think it is more of a selfish act. According to my belief, when you really fall for someone, with all of your heart, devoting literally all you have to offer and then some more, then you obviously cannot do it for two people at the same time.

Why? Because that one person is your MOON.

That one person is who gives you a reason to live,
a reason to believe,
a reason to smile,
a reason to celebrate,
a reason to get back to your feet after that fall,
a reason to be yourself, to love yourself.
And that person is not someone you can afford to share.
That person is yours.
All yours.
#WhimsicallYours! 💜

7 Things We Can Learn from ‘Mondler’ about Relationships

They say love is a dying art. That the days of true love died in the 20th Century. That the concept of “love” has been reduced to mere right swipes and one-night flings. That relationship these days last for lesser time than a sock. And if you look around, you wouldn’t disagree with any of the above, would you?

Maybe it’s time for the Tinder generation to rewind a bit – to the days when if something broke, you fixed it instead of throwing it away. To the days when love outlasted buildings and empires and wars. To the days when satisfaction meant finding a second home in the arms of the person you couldn’t do one day without. To the days, when love was, as The King Of Romance himself once said,

And who better to epitomize that than 2 best friends who found soulmates in one another, and became the #RelationshipGoals for people to follow even 20 years later! Here’s how the new generation can learn a thing or two from Monica and Chandler, or Mondler, the most romantic couple the TV world ever came across!

♥ To be best friends first!

On the show F.R.I.E.N.D.S, Chandler and Monica were best friends for 4 seasons. And that is exactly what they never stopped doing throughout the course of their relationship. The love took seed one night, and grew forever after that. But what never changed was that they were always best friends first. Be it the time they called it even, or when a wife ordered a stripper for her own husband and then became one herself for him

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And who can forget all the little pieces of roasts they dealt in with each other?

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Who is such great friends with their partner these days?

♥ Being romantic, also, jealous in cute quantities!

No disrespect to SRK fans, but anyone who has seen both him and F.R.I.E.N.D.S would say the same thing – Mondler’s Romance>Any SRK movie. They didn’t even have to be a couple to be romantic –

Not that things ever changed later…

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Do we need to even have any nominations for the award of the most romantic proposal ever?

Who can forget the time Chandler’s boss took him out after his supposed “breakup” which ultimately made Chandler realize how tragic his life would be without Monica?

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Millions of romantic moments interspersed in everyday life…

And of course those moments when jealousy crept in (as it should) and they kept it at harmless levels (as everyone should). Like the time when Chandler got jealous over a chef with too much in common with Monica, or when Monica met the funniest guy and it wasn’t Chandler. Also, when Monica thought Chandler was hooking up in Tulsa.

How many relationships has our generations ruined over getting worked up because of mere FB likes?

♥ Being loyal to each other

Millenials are a fickle lot. They find it much easier to keep jumping on every new opportunity that looks great, without so much as considering the long-term effect of it. Betrayalals, drunken hook-ups are as common as tea and coffee.

But Mondler didn’t. Not when Chandler had a chance to hook up in Tulsa even when he knew he could have hidden it from Monica easily.

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Also not when Phoebe wanted to kiss Chandler as part of an unofficial contest

#BecauseIAmInLoveWithMonica

Because the hallmark of a true relationship is having eyes, heart, and comfort only for each other, rather than giving in to stupid temptations that can destroy something that could have been so good, as it was with Mondler…

♥ Not cutting out other friends from your life…

The one mistake we all make in relationships is to give too much priority to our partner. Agreed, spending time together is important, but doing too much can actually cause you to get fed up! Hence, spending quality time with other friends is as essential to keep the relationship strong and fresh. Which is something Mondler ensured they always did.

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After all, friends are the ones that keep you going if something goes wrong with your relationship, don’t they?

♥ To keep going even when the going gets tough!

So what do you do when you come across a difficult question in exam? Skip it and move over to the easier ones, don’t you? This tactic may get us what we want in exams, but unfortunately, we end up applying the same even to our relationships. Us rookies bail out at the slightest hint of trouble.

Not Mondler.

Yes, they fought the first weekend they tried to spend away together. But they made through it.

When Chandler was upset with Monica, she made a complete fool of herself just to please him-

And who can forget the hilarious fight when Chandler smoked and Monica used him for sex.

They underwent the toughest of days… like when Chandler thought he would lose Monica to Richard. And so, he fought FOR her –

And when their world came crashing down realizing they could never have a baby, they fought life TOGETHER!

Because a battle is not won without a scar or injury, is it?

♥Accepting each other with all their fault and imperfections

No two humans are 100% like each other, unless they’re clones. Also, no human is perfect (unless they’re Rajnikant! :p). A true relationship is about liking each other’s positives, and loving each other’s negatives.

We all know how bossy and controlling Monica was. Hell, it even made Phoebe stop living with her. But not Chandler. He allowed her to be herself, all faults included.

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And Monica reciprocated in equal measure when Chandler couldn’t perform in bed and felt like he had let down Monica –

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The faults never made a difference to them because the love is all that mattered for them. A good leaf to take out of their book, don’t you think?

♥Growing with each other!

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Chandler… the poor child wrecked with divorced parents and growing with serious commitment issues. Monica, the shrill, baby-obsessed bossy woman who broke up with the first love of her life because she was hell-bent on having a baby.

To the point Chandler won everyone’s heart with his impromptu wedding vow-

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And Monica giving time to Chandler to grow and be ready. They grew. Together.

Chandler went from being an irresponsible mess who lost a baby on the bus to admonishing Rachel and her sister for misbehaving in Monica’s apartment. If there’s any one who worked as a true team, it is MONDLER!

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AND THAT KIDS, IS HOW YOU MAKE A HAPPILY EVER AFTER

FAIRYTALE OF YOUR OWN!

Don’t you think it’s time we learnt something from the Mondler Handbook of Succeeding at Relationships that they wrote over 6 years?

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