8 Ways to Overcome Sadness and Despair

“Despair, despair, despair.”

I remember beginning an article with the above phrase in 6th grade because I couldn’t learn to ride a bicycle until that time. Sadness is something very transient as a kid. More temporary than a pinch mark on your hand. And at that time these young emotions seemed too hard to bear. With age not only do we grow, our problems and emotions start to grow as well. We tend to equate these seemingly larger problems with complications. Even if we fail to notice, none of our problems is bigger or more complicated than us. Sometimes we are so lost that we don’t even know what we are sad about. We might feel that we have reached a dead end in our life, but don’t let the darkness deceive you. Keep walking and you definitely will find a pinprick of light at the end of the tunnel. Here are some of the ways which might save you from drowning in your own head:

  1. Try to know the problem:

Remember how knowing a demon’s name in horror movies gives you power over it? Well, being able to pinpoint the thing(s) that is bothering you gives you power over it as well.

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  1. Let it out:

Talk about what’s going on in your mind. Going into a shell might seem the easy and comfortable option, but take your time and talk about it to someone. You might as well write everything down. Just get it out of your system. That’s the important thing.

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  1. Keep yourself busy:

An empty mind is devil’s workshop. Keep yourself occupied. Develop a hobby or take up a passion you lost when life happened. Read, write, draw, dance, sing, watch movies. Absolutely anything.

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  1. Perspective matters:

When everything seems grey, try to change your perspective. Maybe, it won’t seem so pathetic after all. Don’t they say that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder?!

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  1. Is it going to matter so much always?

When I had almost given up on life, a friend who now means a lot to me asked me a question which made me think hard. He asked me, “Is the problem you are facing right now going to have the same importance in your life a few years down the line?” More often than not we get hung up on things which matter a lot now, maybe more than a lot, but is it going to be the same always? The only good thing about life is that it goes on. And so should you. Get yourself out of the spiral which is choking the life out of you.

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  1. The human touch:

We are social animals at the end of the day. And human touch is as beautiful as Midas’ touch. It won’t turn anything into gold but it definitely will leave you touched. Find that human who has the gift of understanding you when you can’t even understand yourself. It can be anyone, a friend, parents, siblings, a counsellor or maybe a long-awaited love? Someone who is willing to fix you for your happiness.

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  1. Prioritize:

Life might seem the worst thing that has happened to you but make the most of it while it lasts. Mould it according to you. Craft it the way you want. You are the protagonist, narrator, writer and creator of this piece of art. Get a grip and prioritize your life.

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  1. You are worth it:

So worth it. Do not ever doubt that. You are worth it and you matter, if not to anyone then to your own self. Build a self that others can look up to and not one you cannot look in the eye. Love yourself. Care for yourself. For you are going to live with yourself till the last breath escapes your mouth. You are worth every bit of it. Period.

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5 Things that an Indian student never learnt

Education in India is not for the faint-hearted. In fact, it has always been like this, pressure-filled. Where kids are pushed harder and harder which makes education more like a cough syrup in India.

We fail hugely to gain success in the world market as we still want to stick with the education system that the colonial masters made to produce clerks and civil servants. It’s time we evolve or else the following problems found in current Indian students would continue to plague even the coming generations.

  1. Read more; Why?

India wouldn’t have become such a great nation if Gandhi and Nehru were running behind marks. Our parents and teachers put aside our common sense and judge our intelligence based on how much content we could vomit out on exam sheet.

Thus, Indian students never learned to read extra as education always remained marks bound and they never read things that were not “in syllabus”.

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  1. Theory fails, practice remains!

Our education system wants to gear and test knowledge at every level but totally sidelines the importance of teaching skills. As they say, “Give a man a fish and you feed him for one day, teach him how to catch a fish and you have fed him for a lifetime.” But in India, rote learning and memorization are what prevails. We encourage cramming so much that the lifelong learning based on a student’s aptitude is lost.

Our engineers fail to grab high profile jobs as they search for answer scripts instead of revamping their imagination. Thus I feel that Indian students definitely never learned how to cope with problems in a practical way and are reduced to bookworms.

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  1. Job-oriented, not Goal-oriented

“India is a country where people first become engineers, and then they decide what they want to do in life.”

For us, education is very closely related to money. That is why; one would find in India that people don’t follow their passion instead they run behind degrees that can fetch them good jobs in future. However, they fail to understand that lack of interest would not achieve them the prowess that is required in any field. People have to learn that education is not degree-bound but it goes beyond it and here I would like to quote Amir from 3 idiots (which I totally believe and agree with),

“ kaabil Bano, kamyabi jhak maar ke piche aaegi”

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  1. Rat-race; I doubt if anyone will ever win it

One is healthy competition and other is what happens in India. Basically, a rat race is when you don’t have a goal and start running behind something merely because someone else is running behind it. Slowly and slowly, there is a gush of people running towards the unknown object. So, breathe and think if you have also chosen someone else’s goal as yours or are you striving for the product.

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  1. Professionalism; What’s that again?

We took our assignments, home-work, teachers, and education as a whole lightly, and they took us lightly. Amidst all this ‘lightness’, we missed learning the essence of education, being diligent and professional about one’s work. And because our education system was always so laid back where no one really cared for what we learned (nor did we cared), we forgot to learn the most important etiquette of life.

And later when we enter the professional world, we compare ourselves with others and wonder what went wrong!

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“Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one learned in school”

-Albert Einstein

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Dark side of online dating apps

Swipe right, left, up and down. Swipe till you find the right. The buzz around online dating has surely made us download dating apps at one point or another. The excitement of dating online just by chats is quite thrilling. Of course there are people who have met online and have decided to spend their lives together, but have you considered the percentage? Their percentage is nothing as compared to the fall outs that happen due to online dating apps.

While online dating apps can be as exciting as it gets, it does come with a few skeletons in the cupboard. While it offers you the romance with no strings attached, but let’s face it we are humans and are bound to get attached especially with the wrong one at the wrong time. Here are some dark sides of online dating apps that you should be aware of:

1. Reel or real

Let’s just say the profile picture you are seeing on the app can be fake. There is a full possibility that the person you are talking to is not the same one you are seeing online. Unless you have seen the person face to face, don’t believe what you see online.

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 2. Gone with the wind

You cannot trace the person you were talking to on online app unless you have exchanged phone numbers. If you are talking just through the online app, then the one you think is your dream man/woman can disappear and never come back. You might get attached and your date can easily break all ties with you just by finishing his/her existence from the app.

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3. You are not YOU!

Well, let’s just not pretend, if the person you are talking to can be fake, so can you. You are in constant urge to impress your online date and can lie about yourself with ease. There is not even a possibility for the person to read your body language and judge you. You become a different person that sometimes even you fail to recognize.

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4. Polygamy

Okay okay, let’s admit this. You are not the only one your online date is talking to. They might be double dating or even multi dating, because there is literally no way to find out about your online dating partner’s cheating habits. You might not be someone special to them but just another one of their fling.

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5. From dating to stalking

A lot of apps offer you of finding your online date nearby, in a distance as close as 100 m. What if the person turns out to be a psycho or a stalker? You do realize they can follow you around everywhere and stalk you to the level of being crazy, right? You cannot even avoid them on online app because they might come in person and ask you why aren’t you replying. So basically online dating can give you a stalker for life.

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This dark side of online dating apps is something everyone should keep in mind when they land up on an app to find either the right one or just a casual fling. We aren’t suggesting that dating apps are a bane, but they aren’t a boon either. Just be careful is all we are asking you to do. Till then relax and we hope you can find someone in real. 

5 things I blame F.R.I.E.N.D.S for

Monica’s sex appeal, Rachel’s beauty, Phoebe’s frenzy, Chandler’s wit, Ross’s innocence and Joey’s blissful ignorance, this would largely spell out my addiction. I was one of those thousands who would sit with their eyes glued on the screen each time these 6 appeared. I am also one of those thousands who watched it over again and again and never seem to get bored.

But with time, it all changed, it started to send me on guilt trips each time I watched it. Not because of wasteful hours passed but because of its very content.

Weaved within fat-shaming Monica to blatant misogyny, Joey objectifying women to justifying society’s homophobia and how can I forget about the whitest caste ever in spite of the fact that it was shot in one of the most racially diverse city.

I love the show, and I keep thinking about the difference it would have made had it been written by writer who challenged the clichéd gender conformity. And now, each time I see it, I Keep wondering about these wrongly depicted sketches.

  1. LGBT, a mere JOKE!!

Though I love the fact that show features the lesbians and transgender but sometimes it leaves me wondering if they were added solely as a punchline.

May it be Chandler’s dad or Ross’s wife, any dig taken against them revolves around the fact that they were related to the lesbian and the transgender. I wish they had shown society’s acceptance at least once. Hence, thousands like us were swayed to believe that having one of them in our lives would leave us open in front of a laughing crowd.

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  1. Objectifying women, Yet again!!

The men of the group are seen spending an undue amount of time defending their masculinity and hetero-status that they forgot to pay their homage to women. And this becomes yet another popular sitcom that uses women solely as sexual object. Their continuous “How many girls have you slept with?” conversations do not seem progressive. The background laughter nicely covered the fact that Joey was considered masculine only because he slept with numerous women. “CAN IT BE MORE DISGRACING?”

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  1. Slim women gets it all

Is it only me who finds it disturbing that on one hand Chandler is shown fat-shaming Monika and later he goes GAGA over her when she slims down. The show drills it in our head that teenage Monica who was fat was worse off as compared to the new slim Monica who is confident, attractive and much active sexually. Plus she is seen joining the laughter based on her weight.

I am sorry, but at least I wouldn’t allow anyone mocking my size; former or current.

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  1. Rachel’s career advancements hurdles as a result of Ross’s insecurities

Is it just me for whom Rachel Greene stands as an epitome of all those women whose relationship crumbles because of her career. Though I am glad to see that Ross was the one who got judged here for his selfishness but it stays to be the ugly truth of our society.

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5. Gender stereotypes

One would hear background laughter yet again each time the GUYS hugged each other, or cried, or used a purse, or loved potpourri. Well, wats up with all that gender stereotyping.

Moreover, women having more sexual partners appall men but men can go around changing their partners like pajama was all cool. NOT COOL!

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So,
I feel with time I have chosen my stand and I would rather not listen to HETEROSEXUALS call each other women as an epithet. I think this time I would give it a pass.

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Why College Students Dropout: Don’t Let it Happen to You

Isn’t college the best time of our lives? Yes! It certainly is. But not for all. There are students who despite desperately wanting to join college cannot do so. Judging them won’t be right because they have their own set of reasons. There could be a chance that either you are the one who has to dropout or you might be the one who is eventually thinking too. Either way, don’t let that happen to you. Here are the reasons why college students mostly dropout:

  • Money issues

Finance is one of the most common reason, why people dropout. College is surely expensive and not everyone has appropriate and sufficient funds for the same. But don’t let money issues get in way of your education. Either start saving initially or you can talk to college authorities for various scholarships and aids.

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  • In need of full-time job

You might think that college is a waste of time and you should start earning. Well, you might not realize this now but sometime in future that a degree is a must. Don’t let the want of job get in between your degree. Get a degree and you will surely earn more than what you will earn without it.

  • Family issues

Oh! That’s a tough one. There could be some problem in the family that might be leading you to drop out of the college, but please don’t. The situations could be unavoidable but there is always a middle way out. Find it and get going for your degree.

  • Establishing a startup

Right! Startups are the new trend and apparently, almost every student wants to start a business without completing the degree. Your idea might be innovative, creative and the best, but please don’t opt out of college for the same. What if the startup doesn’t go well? You need to have a backup, don’t you?

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If you think college would be really easy, then you are wrong. It is totally a different place than school. Your environment, friends, campus, everything is going to change. It is going to be stressful, but why dropout? You are a warrior and you know it, so get up and face everything that lies ahead. Just relax because When you get the degree in your hand, all the stress you have had will be worth it.

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  • Life outside class looks fun

Well definitely! the life you are leading outside the classroom is fun and people dropout because they don’t enjoy being in a class. But have you tried it out? Make more friends in your classroom and the life inside classroom would be much more fun than outside. Don’t dropout just for the fun of a few days. You don’t want to spend the future days regretting about the fun you had outside instead of attending class. Believe us, getting a degree is much more fun.

No matter what the reason is, Just Breathe. Think and you will definitely find a way out of the trouble you are in. If you are willfully opting out of the college, our suggestion would be not to do so. Get a degree and then you can do whatever you want. College gives you security for future, so why not secure it? Think before coming to a decision because you don’t want yourself to be regretting about dropping out few years down the line.

 

7 Unusual Statues And Monuments Across The Globe!

There are some monuments and statues that instill a sense of pride, beauty or emotions among the viewer. Those are unforgettable pieces of art that you get to see on field trips or in the pages of history books. But then there are some less-explored monuments, which are in a way an ode to the weird, the wonderful, and the just plain wacky which would make you think, “Seriously Bro? Seriously? Were you high or something before you ended up making these?”

Let’s look at some of them, One cautionary advice would be to just enjoy the view instead of trying to understand them (not if you don’t have something better to do).

7. De Vaartkapoen

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This statue was erected in 1985 in the Molenbeek area of Brussels. The scene it depicts is reminiscent of a comedy sketch: a man unexpectedly emerges from a manhole and pulls the feet from underneath a policeman. It’s author is Belgian sculptor Tom Frantzen.

6. Shit Fountain

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Artist Jerzy Kenar got tired of stepping out of his Chicago home and constantly stepping in dog poop. So, he decided to put his talents to good use and created a visual monument that would serve as a reminder to the dog owners of the neighborhood to scoop up what their pups leave behind. Enter Shit Fountain, a fecal-shaped bronze coil on top of a cement pillar with the monument’s title carved into the side.

5. The Headington Shark

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The significance of this sculpture is much greater than may appear at first sight. It was erected on the 41st anniversary of the nuclear attack on Nagasaki at the end of World War II. The sculpture depicts a beautiful , if potentially deadly lethal weapon falling from the sky.

4. Die Badende

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Artist Oliver Voss created the sculpture as an advertisement for British beauty company Glory. The company wanted to make a “big splash” in thanking the German people for embracing their latest line of products. The advertisement proved very successful; customers and a large crowd gathered to watch the woman hoisted from the water. The movers had a large towel ready to conceal her lady bits from peeping eyes.

3. Jimmy Carter Peanut

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The Jimmy Carter Peanut might give you nightmares, standing at 4 meters (13 ft) tall with a wide, toothy smile and no eyes. The peanut can be found on the side of the road in Plains, Georgia. The structure started out far from Georgia, however. It was actually constructed in Indiana in 1976 to honor Jimmy Carter’s visit to the state during his presidential campaign tour. Why was a giant, smiling peanut, of all things, used as a tribute? Well, before he was president, Carter was actually a peanut farmer.

2. Jeju Loveland

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The salacious monuments found on Jeju Island in South Korea were made to honor sexual acts. The park itself is called Jeju Loveland and arouses more than just curiosity from its many visitors. The theme park opened in 2004 and has a collection of more than 140 erotic statues depicting sexual encounters between both humans and animals. The goals of the theme park are to break down barriers and taboo feelings surrounding sex and promote the “natural beauty of sexuality.”

1. Brownnosers

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Brownnosers, created by Czech artist David Cerny, takes the term “brownnoser” to an entirely new (and literal) level. The two statues stand, or rather bend over, outside the Futura Gallery in Prague. The two figures are positioned side-by-side with the lower portions of their torsos protruding from a cement wall. Viewers are invited to climb ladders attached to the open anuses of the figures and stick their heads inside the openings.

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Is there a Life after Death?

Humans are the only species on earth who know for a fact they will die one day. But then again, this knowledge isn’t the one they relish. Throughout history, people have sought eternal life trying almost everything and most recently trying to fulfill this hope by pinning it to science. The only thing that surpasses this hope that death can be postponed forever is the hope that life will continue after death. And this belief in life after death comes in all shapes and sizes. In between the views involving continued existence in a physical body, and those in which survival takes place outside the body we are still stuck with it, trying to reason and understand the same.

Today let’s talk about that one question which has troubled every mind for centuries, And the question is, is there life after death? I mean, what we know for a fact is that one hundred percent of the people that you’ll ever meet are you going to die because we are structured to. But, is that it? What happens to you after you die? And if that is so, what’s the basis of the same? How does it even work? Let’s try to evaluate.

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If words of Plato were to be considered, he said that “I’m not sure what’s after death but nature seems to give us a picture of what it will be like, some new kind of life after death. Inside of every piece of fruit is a seed and if you plant the seed, you get the tree that brought it. An oak tree has an acorn and the acorn, if you plant it, you get another oak tree. The caterpillar goes into this cocoon and it seems to die and then it bursts forth as a butterfly.” Does that mean we have an ulterior purpose ? or is it all about For you are dust, And to dust, you shall return.”

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According to Anthropologists almost every culture and religion known on the face of the earth believe in some kind of afterlife – everyone from the primitive cultures to the Amazon to the Himalayas to urban cultures.

There is this something in human beings that believe that death is just not an end, there’s something. Some people end up building pyramids while others build tombs, if we look closely into the rituals, people think that they can take their riches with them. Somehow death unites us all (at least the way we think). There’s a universal belief system in terms of life after death – a common thread of all people.

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That hunger, that thirst for knowing the meaning, the significance which never quite gets satiated. No matter what we accomplish, no matter how good it gets, there’s always that, hmmmm, we’re not quite there. And that is another reason to believe that there is life after death. Heaven or hell whatever you name it, there has to be something.

And then, even a part of science, i.e. “NDE” or the near-death experiences conducts various researchers trying to put an end to this mystery. With numerous people reporting near-death experiences where they see a light at the end of the tunnel or a mystic figure waiting to take them has been largely reported.

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Then comes our mythologies, the Hindu Mythology for that matter has a whole book called “Garur Puran” which tells you about how will you treated in hell or heaven according to your past deeds and the way you had led your life on Earth. Bible Claims that Jesus resurrected after being dead and buried for 3 days which yet again gives us hope of the same.

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What is the truth behind Life and Death? Can we somehow live forever? Is there a light waiting for us at the end of the tunnel? Only time will tell. Till then let’s hatch more conspiracy theories.

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